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by Larry Magid

We hear a lot about kids bullying* other kids and it is indeed a problem. But what about adults bullying other adults, or adults bullying kids?

True, bullying is a problem among youth. The National Center for Education Statistics reported that in 2009,  28% of 12 through 18 year old kids were “bullied by traditional means at school” while 6% were “bullied by electronic means anywhere.” There are of course other studies with other statistics, but just about all agree that it’s a problem that affects a significant minority — but not most — of tweens and teens.

But it’s also a problem for a signification percentage of adults and there are, sadly, cases of adults bullying children.

Adult-on-Adult Bullying

A 2010 study commissioned by the Workplace Bullying Institute and conducted by Zogby International found that more than a third (35%) “have experienced bullying firsthand.” Other surveys differ but it’s pretty clear that millions of adults have experienced verbal abuse, offensive conduct and sabotage of their work, according to the Institute.

There is also plenty of bullying within families and couples. According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, a 2006 Harris poll, found that “approximately 33 million or 15% of all U.S. adults, admit that they were a victim of domestic violence.” Among all adults, 39% said they had experienced some type of abuse such as:

• Called bad names (31%)
• Pushing, slapping, choking or hitting (21%)
• Public humiliation (19%)
• Keeping away from friends or family (13%)
• Threatening your family (10%)
• Forcing you to have sexual intercourse without consent (9%)
  Source: Harris Interactive: Over Thirty Million Adults Claim to be Victims of Domestic Violence

Military bullying

Bullying is also a problem in the military. Dr. Rene Robichaux, the Army’s Social Work program manager was quoted by Army News Service that “hazing often occurs in ‘elite’ military units, and that much of it is psychological and directed at newcomers.” That article also pointed out that “Bullies can also be found higher up in the ranks. Although leaders are supposed to look out for the welfare of their Soldiers, they are sometimes the ones who do the bullying.” The armed services are actively engaged in anti-bullying campaigns.

Police Harassment

Police harassment is often a form of bullying and it can be adult-to-adult or adult-to-child. In 2010, according to the Cato Institute’s National Police Misconduct Reporting Project, there were 3,814 unique reports of police misconduct involving 4,966 sworn law enforcement officers. Of these, 25% involved excessive force and 10.4% were sexual misconduct. It’s important to note that fewer than 1% of police officers (992 for each 100,000 officers) were involved in this misconduct. It’s anecdotal and it doesn’t always constitute bullying, but I’ve heard many reports of teens — including my own son — being harassed or teased by police officers.

Politicians & pundits too

And don’t forget the bullies you see on TV, whether they be politicians making derogatory comments about their opponents, pundits making mean or caustic comments, or adults bullying each other in sitcoms and other shows. I expect politicians to conduct vigorous campaigns but why can’t they agree not to lie or degrade their opponents. For good and bad, public figures are role models and some are modeling bad behavior.

Adults bullying children

Have you ever been out in public — say at a grocery store or restaurant — and seen an adult being abusive to a child? I’ve seen parents yell at kids for no apparent reason. I’ve seen parents swat kids and I’ve seen plenty of cases where parents and other adults were just rude to kids. I experienced it myself when I was in school. I had a gym teacher who regularly harassed and belittled me and other kids who he thought were too slow, too fat or too gay. If you don’t believe me, buy a copy of Warren’s Words: Smart Commentary on Social Justice. It was written by my elementary, middle school and high school friend and schoolmate Warren Blumenfeld, who documented some of this from his perspective as a gay teenager who — at the time — hadn’t yet come out.

In a paper, Teachers Who Bully Students: A Hidden Trauma, Stuart Twemlow and colleagues found that 70.4% of teachers asked said that they knew of “isolated cases” of teachers bullying students. 17.6% said it happened frequently and 40.2% admitted to having bullied a student at least once. In fairness, this was a very small study with only 116 responses from teachers from seven urban U.S. elementary schools. I wouldn’t generalize this data to apply to all teachers but even if the percentages turn out to be much lower, it’s still a cause for concern.

*Definition of bullying

There are lots of ways to define bullying and not all experts agree with this definition, but the closest one that we have to an “official” definition comes from the Olweus Bullying Prevent Program that defines bullying as “aggressive behavior that is intentional and that involves an imbalance of power. Most often, it is repeated over time.”

Nancy Willard, founder of EmbraceCivility.org, defines student bullying as ”hurtful act or acts that have caused severe distress, and are pervasive or persistent, and have caused physical harm to the student or his or her property, or significant interference with the students’ educational opportunities.”

Other experts define bullying slightly differently but one thing is for sure. Before we point our fingers and lecture young people about bullying, we need to look at our own behavior and those of our fellow grownups.

This is a work in progress. Subject to editing and revision. Comments are welcome

by Larry Magid

We hear a lot about kids bullying* other kids and it is indeed a problem, but what about adults..

True, bullying is a problem among youth. The National Center for Education Statistics reported that in 2009,  28% of 12 through 18 year old kids were “bullied by traditional means at school” while 6% were “bullied by electronic means anywhere.” There are of course other studies with other statistics, but just about all agree that it’s a problem that affects a significant minority — but not most — tweens and teens.

But it’s also a problem for a signification percentage of adults and there are, sadly, cases of adults bullying children.

Adult on Adult Bullying

A 2010 study commissioned by the Workplace Bullying Institute and conducted by Zogby International found that more than a third (35%) “have experienced bullying firsthand.” Other surveys differ but it’s pretty clear that millions of adults have experienced verbal abuse, offensive conduct and sabotage of their work, according to the Institute.

There is also plenty of bullying within families and couples. According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, a 2006 Harris poll, found that “approximately 33 million or 15% of all U.S. adults, admit that they were a victim of domestic violence.” Among all adults, 39% said they had experienced some type of abuse such as:

• Called bad names (31%)
• Pushing, slapping, choking or hitting (21%)
• Public humiliation (19%)
• Keeping away from friends or family (13%)
• Threatening your family (10%)
• Forcing you to have sexual intercourse without consent (9%)Source: Harris Interactive: Over Thirty Million Adults Claim to be Victims of Domestic Violence

Military bullying

Bullying is also a problem in the military. Dr. Rene Robichaux, the Army’s Social Work program manager was quoted by Army News Service that “hazing often occurs in ‘elite’ military units, and that much of it is psychological and directed at newcomers.”  That article also pointed out that “Bullies can also be found higher up in the ranks. Although leaders are supposed to look out for the welfare of their Soldiers, they are sometimes the ones who do the bullying.” The armed services are actively engaged in anti-bullying campaigns.

Police Harassment

Police harassment is often a form of bullying and it can be adult to adult or adult to child. In 2010, according to the Cato Institute’s National Police Misconduct Reporting Project, there were 3,814 unique reports of police misconduct involving 4,966 sown law enforcement officers. Of these, 25% involved excessive force and 10.4% were sexual misconduct. It’s important to note that fewer than 1% of police officers (992 for each 100,000 officers) were involved in this misconduct. It’s anecdotal and it doesn’t always constitute bullying, but I’ve heard many reports of teens — including my own son — being harassed or teased by police officers.

Adults bullying children

Have you ever been out in public — say a grocery store or a restaurant — and seen an adult being abusive to a child.  I’ve seen parents yell at kids for no apparent reason. I’ve seen parents swat kids and I’ve seen plenty of cases were parents and other adults were just rude to kids. I experienced it myself when I was in school. I had a gym teacher who regularly harassed and belittled me and other kids who he thought we too slow, too fat or to gay. If you don’t believe me, buy a copy of Warren’s Words: Smart Commentary on Social Justice. It was written by my elementary, middle school and high school friend and schoolmate Warren Blumenfeld who documented some this from his perspective as gay teenager who – at the time — hadn’t yet come out.

In a paper, Teachers Who Bully Students: A Hidden Trauma, Stuart Twemlow and colleagues found that 70.4% of teachers asked said that they knew of “isolated cases” of students teachers bullying students. 17.6% said it happened frequently and 40.2% admitted to having bullied a student at least once. In fairness this was a very small study with only 116 responses from teachers from seven urban U.S. elementary schools. I wouldn’t generalize this data to apply to all teachers but even if the percentages turn out to be much lower, it’s still a cause for concern.

*Definition of bullying

There are lots of ways to define bullying and not all experts agree with this definition, but the closest one that we have to “official” definition comes from the Olweus Bullying Prevent Program that defines bullying as “aggressive behavior that is intentional and that involves an imbalance of power. Most often, it is repeated over time.”

This is a work in progress. Subject to editing and revision. Comments are welcome

by Larry Magid

We hear a lot about kids bullying* other kids and it is indeed a problem, but what about adults..

True, bullying is a problem among youth. The National Center for Education Statistics reported that in 2009,  28% of 12 through 18 year old kids were “bullied by traditional means at school” while 6% were “bullied by electronic means anywhere.” There are of course other studies with other statistics, but just about all agree that it’s a problem that affects a significant minority — but not most — tweens and teens.

But it’s also a problem for a signification percentage of adults and there are, sadly, cases of adults bullying children.

Adult on Adult Bullying

A 2010 study commissioned by the Workplace Bullying Institute and conducted by Zogby International found that more than a third (35%) “have experienced bullying firsthand.” Other surveys differ but it’s pretty clear that millions of adults have experienced verbal abuse, offensive conduct and sabotage of their work, according to the Institute.

There is also plenty of bullying within families and couples. According to the National Domestic Violence Hotline, a 2006 Harris poll, found that “approximately 33 million or 15% of all U.S. adults, admit that they were a victim of domestic violence.” Among all adults, 39% said they had experienced some type of abuse such as:

• Called bad names (31%)
• Pushing, slapping, choking or hitting (21%)
• Public humiliation (19%)
• Keeping away from friends or family (13%)
• Threatening your family (10%)
• Forcing you to have sexual intercourse without consent (9%)Source: Harris Interactive: Over Thirty Million Adults Claim to be Victims of Domestic Violence

Military bullying

Bullying is also a problem in the military. Dr. Rene Robichaux, the Army’s Social Work program manager was quoted by Army News Service that “hazing often occurs in ‘elite’ military units, and that much of it is psychological and directed at newcomers.”  That article also pointed out that “Bullies can also be found higher up in the ranks. Although leaders are supposed to look out for the welfare of their Soldiers, they are sometimes the ones who do the bullying.” The armed services are actively engaged in anti-bullying campaigns.

Police Harassment

Police harassment is often a form of bullying and it can be adult to adult or adult to child. In 2010, according to the Cato Institute’s National Police Misconduct Reporting Project, there were 3,814 unique reports of police misconduct involving 4,966 sown law enforcement officers. Of these, 25% involved excessive force and 10.4% were sexual misconduct. It’s important to note that fewer than 1% of police officers (992 for each 100,000 officers) were involved in this misconduct. It’s anecdotal and it doesn’t always constitute bullying, but I’ve heard many reports of teens — including my own son — being harassed or teased by police officers.

Adults bullying children

Have you ever been out in public — say a grocery store or a restaurant — and seen an adult being abusive to a child.  I’ve seen parents yell at kids for no apparent reason. I’ve seen parents swat kids and I’ve seen plenty of cases were parents and other adults were just rude to kids. I experienced it myself when I was in school. I had a gym teacher who regularly harassed and belittled me and other kids who he thought we too slow, too fat or to gay. If you don’t believe me, buy a copy of Warren’s Words: Smart Commentary on Social Justice. It was written by my elementary, middle school and high school friend and schoolmate Warren Blumenfeld who documented some this from his perspective as gay teenager who – at the time — hadn’t yet come out.

In a paper, Teachers Who Bully Students: A Hidden Trauma, Stuart Twemlow and colleagues found that 70.4% of teachers asked said that they knew of “isolated cases” of students teachers bullying students. 17.6% said it happened frequently and 40.2% admitted to having bullied a student at least once. In fairness this was a very small study with only 116 responses from teachers from seven urban U.S. elementary schools. I wouldn’t generalize this data to apply to all teachers but even if the percentages turn out to be much lower, it’s still a cause for concern.

*Definition of bullying

There are lots of ways to define bullying and not all experts agree with this definition, but the closest one that we have to “official” definition comes from the Olweus Bullying Prevent Program that defines bullying as “aggressive behavior that is intentional and that involves an imbalance of power. Most often, it is repeated over time.”

by Larry Magid

The National Center for Missing & Exploited Children helps protect kids from abduction and exploitation

I’ve been a board member at the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children (NCMEC) for several years and I’ve heard a lot of horrible stories about children who have been abducted or abused. Every story is tragic but the ones that turn my stomach the most are cases where trusted adults — be they teachers, clergy or even parents — abuse the very children they are supposed to be nurturing and protecting.  That was certainly the case when Penn State University assistant football coach, Jerry Sandusky, was convicted of multiple counts of sexual abuse against boys over a period of years. In addition to his duties at Penn State, Sandusky ran a summer football camp for youth.

Unfortunately, acts of child sexual exploitation are all to familiar to the staff of the NCMEC, a Congressionally authorized non-profit organization that works with law enforcement, families and other professionals on issues related to missing and sexually exploited children.

But it doesn’t have to be that way.  With better education, increased law enforcement and greater awareness its possible to better protect children in sporting programs, youth-serving organizations and everywhere else.

On March 19th and 20th, NCMEC is sponsoring a conference called Safe to Compete: Protecting Child Athletes from Sexual Abuse, where it will convene more than 50 youth-serving organizations, including the YMCA, Special Olympics, USA Swimming, USA Gymnastics,  and Big Brothers Big Sisters of America to talk about the issue of preventing abuse of children in sports programs.

National Center for Missing & Exploited Children CEO John Ryan

In an interview (scroll down to listen to the podcast) NCMEC CEO John Ryan said “one of the deliverables of the summit will be to bring these leading national youth organizations to the Center and develop what we are calling sound practices so that parents can ask the right questions and that they can be assured that these organizations have the appropriate policies in place.” And when it comes to good practices, size doesn’t necessarily matter. “Some large organizations are not doing enough, some small organizations despite limited resources are doing more than one should expect. ”  He said that “there is no uniform code of behavior for youth serving organizations.”

Speakers at the conference will include Dr. Sharon W. Cooper, Developmental and Forensic Pediatrics, P.A., Sheldon Kennedy, Former NHL player and survivor of sexual abuse, Cal Ripken, Jr., founder of the Cal Ripken, Sr. Foundation and MLB Hall of Fame Inductee and John Walsh, NCMEC co-founder and host of “America’s Most Wanted.’

Click below to listen to or read my full interview with John Ryan, CEO of the National Center for Missing and Exploited Children.

Listen to podcast

Transcript of interview

By Larry Magid

March 12th is World Day Against Cyber Censorship (source: Reporters Without Borders)

Reporters Without Borders has declared Tuesday, March 12th as World Day Against Cyber-Censorship in support of an “Internet without restrictions and accessible to all.”

The last time I checked, the word “all” applied to everyone — people of all ages. And the same is true for the U.S. Constitution’s First Amendment, which makes no mention of age.

Yet, we live in a world where young people — especially those under 18 — are regularly denied access to unfettered access to speak or seek information on the Internet.

I’m not arguing that there should be no parental supervision. There are young people – especially very young children — who need to be protected from inappropriate content such as pornography but that shouldn’t be used as an excuse to ban young people from social media (as it is in many schools, even during free time) nor install software on the computers of teens that would block or monitor their activity.

Of course there are exceptions. Some young people exhibit high-risk behavior that justifies imposing restrictions or monitoring. But that’s true for some adults as well. In the U.S. and other countries there are procedures where people of any age can be denied some of their liberties after having been convicted of a crime or having been found to be mentally incompetent but, the assumption — at least in enlightened societies — is that people are able to make their own decisions and are given free access to speak and consume information unless a judge makes an exception after due process.

In the mean time, it’s worth reviewing Reporters Without Borders’ Enemies of the Internet list to learn how some countries — like Bahrain, Belarus, China, Cuba, Iran and North Korea have  imposed strong restrictions on citizen’s use of Internet technology and how others — including Australia Egypt, France, Russia and South Korea are “under surveillance  by the group for less stringent restrictions that nevertheless potentially restrict free access.

But when it comes to children, there are restrctions in every country – including the United States and Western Europe including those countries that have signed the United Nation’s Convention on the Rights of the Child, that specifies (in aricle 13) that “The child shall have the right to freedom of expression; this right shall include freedom to seek, receive and impart information and ideas of all kinds, regardless of frontiers, either orally, in writing or in print, in the form of art, or through any other media of the child’s choice. It does go on to say that “the exercise of this right may be subject to certain restrictions, but these shall only be such as are provided by law and are necessary” which — as I read it — means that most kids should be given free access to information unless there are well thought out and well documented reasons to make an exception.

More:

Digital Citizenship Includes Rights as Well as Responsibilities (Larry Magid, Huffington Post)

Digital citizenship in process: Notes from the Baku IGF (Anne Collier, NetFamilyNews)

What’s Your Story video contest asks” What does the good side of the Internet look like?”

For the fourth year in a row, security company Trend Micro is sponsoring the “What’s Your Story” competition designed to encourage young people from the United States and Canada to submit videos that answer the question: “What does the good side of the Internet look like?” Videos should be short (between 30 seconds and two minutes) and can be produced using virtually any type of equipment, including cell phone cameras.

Contestants are encouraged to “tell us the good stuff you (and others) are doing … whether it’s connecting in kind ways, staying safe, keeping good reputations, doing cool things, being smart about cell phone cameras, or making a difference — for just one person or many.”

There are two grand prizes and four runners-up. One individual filmmaker and one school or classroom that collaborates on a video each win $10,000. Two runner up individuals get $1,000 each and two schools get $1,000 each.

The contest is funded by security company Trend Micro (which helps support ConnectSafely.org, the nonprofit Internet Safety organization where I serve as co-director) and is co-sponsored by several companies and organizations, including Meetme, Tumblr, Family Online Safety Institute, 3BL Media and the Identity Theft Resource Center.

Judges select from a group of finalists and finalists are determined, in part, by ratings from the public based on online viewing before the judges’ meeting.

Lynette Owens – director of Trend Micro’s Internet Safety & Kids program

“It’s designed this way to encourage peer to peer messaging and it’s important these messages resonate with other young people,” said Lynette Owens, who coordinates the project for Trend Micro. Contestants are encouraged to promote, embed and link to their entries using Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Google (GOOG)+ other media “to showcase a positive use of social media,” said Owens.

Having judged previous contests, I can tell you that originality and creativity are more important than production values, though that counts, too. Material must be original and all elements — including background music — must respect others’ intellectual property rights and shouldn’t include any inaccurate information. We’ve disqualified some entries for quoting statistics that came from unreliable sources.

Entries, which must be submitted by April 16th, will be posted to the Web and can be viewed and ranked by the public until April 30th.  A summary of the contest rule are here.

This post is adapted from a column that appeared in the San Jose Mercury News

What’s Your Story video contest asks” What does the good side of the Internet look like?”

For the fourth year in a row, security company Trend Micro is sponsoring the “What’s Your Story” competition designed to encourage young people from the United States and Canada to submit videos that answer the question: “What does the good side of the Internet look like?” Videos should be short (between 30 seconds and two minutes) and can be produced using virtually any type of equipment, including cell phone cameras.

Contestants are encouraged to “tell us the good stuff you (and others) are doing … whether it’s connecting in kind ways, staying safe, keeping good reputations, doing cool things, being smart about cell phone cameras, or making a difference — for just one person or many.”

There are two grand prizes and four runners-up. One individual filmmaker and one school or classroom that collaborates on a video each win $10,000. Two runner up individuals get $1,000 each and two schools get $1,000 each.

The contest is funded by security company Trend Micro (which helps support ConnectSafely.org, the nonprofit Internet Safety organization where I serve as co-director) and is co-sponsored by several companies and organizations, including Meetme, Tumblr, Family Online Safety Institute, 3BL Media and the Identity Theft Resource Center.

Judges select from a group of finalists and finalists are determined, in part, by ratings from the public based on online viewing before the judges’ meeting.

Lynette Owens – director of Trend Micro’s Internet Safety & Kids program

“It’s designed this way to encourage peer to peer messaging and it’s important these messages resonate with other young people,” said Lynette Owens, who coordinates the project for Trend Micro. Contestants are encouraged to promote, embed and link to their entries using Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, Google (GOOG)+ other media “to showcase a positive use of social media,” said Owens.

Having judged previous contests, I can tell you that originality and creativity are more important than production values, though that counts, too. Material must be original and all elements — including background music — must respect others’ intellectual property rights and shouldn’t include any inaccurate information. We’ve disqualified some entries for quoting statistics that came from unreliable sources.

Entries, which must be submitted by April 16th, will be posted to the Web and can be viewed and ranked by the public until April 30th.  A summary of the contest rule are here.

This post is adapted from a column that appeared in the San Jose Mercury News